I Thought People Loved Porn

Dirty magazines, Playboy channel and internet porn: all things adolescent boys (and girls) will eventually find. Porn is a billion dollar industry. What used to be rare and taboo is now ubiquitous and acceptable. It can be used to spice up a boring sex life, mend a broken heart or just fill an afternoon. But how many of us actually admit to watching it? Moreover, how many of us pay attention?

 Girls for the most part don't watch porn or deny it. Personally I think it's because society has yet to warm up to the idea of girls masturbating. It's not really mentioned in popular media, except really shows for women... But I digress.

 From what they told me in Catholic school, porn is an instrument of the devil to degrade women and demonize sex. (Funny because that's my definition of the Catholic Church) Porn, to me, is a tool we should all take advantage of. For the most part, these people know what they're doing. 

 When it comes down to it, sex isn't hard. It's pretty basic, but the difference between mediocre sex and toe-curling-body-spazming-uncontrollable-dizzying sex, is the technique. Those posters used to inspire us in elementary school – “The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra” – weren’t far off.

 

Porn should be viewed as didactic and inspirational.

 

For the ladies, take some tips from the pros in terms of what to do to the tip. Once you understand how porn works, you can basically understand how the male mind works, in terms of sexual desire. They’re different than us. We feel the most turned on when someone makes us feel wanted and desired.  Men feel the most desire through visual stimuli. They like the visual aspect of everything. The male mind likes to take momentary snapshots and file them away for a rainy day.

It’s great in terms of creativity.  Take notes “maybe he will like it if I use my tongue like this” or even “what she said was sexy. I’ll try that!”.  Men like to know they’re doing a good job and they do enjoy a little direction. If you don’t take clues from the porn stars, you may not get what you want.

Okay gentleman, oral sex is a two way street. We understand it can be intimidating, but how do you ever expect us to want to return the favor. I understand that it looks confusing and probably is, but that is why there are porn stars!  Most girls say they don’t like it, and that would be because most guys haven’t the slightest clue. (Picture Paris Hilton watching C-SPAN) Watch the masters work, because men who know what they’re doing down there are rarer and more valuable than diamonds (well maybe). And in the end, if you do your job, things can only feel better for you.

Beyond the foreplay, how about some new ideas? Missionary is quite fun, but it can get old. Porn is a great didactic tool for coming up with new and interesting ways to make her scream. A little creativity and initiative can go a long way. And in most relationships, if she’s not happy, no one is happy.

Moral of the story, porn is a readily available and useful tool to enhance your skill. There is a reason why they get paid to have sex, and you don’t.